Sometimes, things can build and build in life; with personal, work and volunteer commitments mounting it can be hard to take a moment, reflect, and reprioritise.
Every year I attend the Universal Medicine health retreat in either the UK, Vietnam or Australia. This allows me dedicated time and space to reflect on where I am at, build my connection with myself, and appreciate my ever expanding footprint in the big wide world.
This year’s retreat was the best yet, and I have prepared an exercise below for anyone who wants to tackle a problem head on using one of the techniques shared at the retreat.
The Four Pillars of Evolution
This strategy can be used for conflict management, reducing anxiety, or even just a bit of self-reflection. As the name suggests, there are 4 steps. The steps do not all need to be used each time, but are stronger and more effective when used together. As with everything I write about, the successful implementation of these steps is reliant on the quality of the way we live, not just what we do.
Often in life we get chucked a curve ball which can really knock us, as we build our level of self-awareness and presence, it’s easier to see those coming and make better decisions about what we do next; how do we diffuse a sticky situation, rather than escalate it.
Every time an issue comes up we have a choice – the choice is a split second one which we make, often without thinking. Let’s say there are two ways this can go:
Now we have agreed the latter is the better approach, we need to know how to avoid getting stuck in a rip of reaction, and instead floating our head above the water and taking a deep breath.
Let’s say, for example, someone at work gives some harsh feedback about a report received.
Use the following table to break it down and get some perspective.
As you can see, the successful implementation of the Pillars of Evolution as a conflict management strategy rely heavily on the quality of the presence we bring to our work, and therefore life, each and every day.